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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE, also called battering, spouse abuse, family violence or intimate partner violence, is a pattern of assaultive and coercive behaviors in which an individual establishes and maintains power and control over another with whom he/she has an intimate, romantic, marital or family relationship. Abusers often use threats, intimidation, isolation, violent acts and other behaviors to establish and maintain power and control, which is the crux of domestic violence.
The followings are common types of abuse that may be used sparingly and at discernable points of a relationship, or repeatedly and consistently throughout a relationship.
Domestic violence occurs in the relationship where abusers and survivors know each other, and could happen both in adult and adolescent intimate or familial relationships. The abuser and survivor may be married, divorced, separated, cohabitating, have a child together, dating or simply part of the family. They may be heterosexual or homosexual. The relationship may be long-term or may have just started. Domestic violence can occur in any type of intimate partner or familial relationship.
Domestic violence is a crime.
Use these guidelines to determine if you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence.
Has your partner ever:
Does your partner ever:
Profile of an Abuser — Five Key Elements:
For more information on the profile of a domestic abuser, visit these sites:
Reality: Unfortunately, acceptance or tolerance of domestic violence exists in many cultures, including Western cultures. Excusing any incidence of violence against women as a product of culture is dangerous because it aids an abuser's justification for his abuse.
Reality: Domestic violence is blind to ethnicity, race, social class and education levels. There are abusers and victims from all walks of life. Abusers can be respected members of their community, seen by many on the outside as charming and amiable people.
Reality: Many battered women make numerous attempts to change their behavior, hoping that will stop the abuse. Ironically, this approach may only fuel the abuser's control. Only the abuser can change his or her own behavior.
Reality: There are many reasons for why women don't leave abusive relationships. When battered women flee, they are at the highest risk of retaliation from their abuser who may become angry that he has lost control over the situation and the victim. Abusers are very controlling and often deny their victims access to resources including money, information and social support. If the survivor is an immigrant, her resources may be even more limited and she may face additional language, cultural, legal and economic barriers.
Reality: Domestic violence affects us all. It is a community issue, and outside support is one of the most vital resource for a survivor. Domestic violence is also a crime.
Reality: It is estimated that nearly one in three adult women will experience at least one physical assault by a partner during adulthood. 30% of Americans say they know a woman who has been physically abused by her husband or boyfriend in the past year.
Reality: Though some batterers are loving fathers, research shows that 50% of the men who frequently assaulted their wives also frequently abused their children. All children suffer from witnessing their father assault their mother.
Reality: Marital rape (a form of sexual abuse) is illegal in all 50 states. It is a crime punishable by law. It is a woman's right to make her own decisions about sex whether she is married or not.
Reality: Despite a tradition of respecting elders, this abuse does occur in Asian communities. Elders may be deprived of food, clothing, money, suitable living conditions, or be forced to work as household labor by their family. Abused women of all ages inside or outside the Asian Community can call NYAWC for help.
Reality: All women have the right to get help, no matter what their immigration status is. NYAWC provides culturally sensitive and language accesible services regardless of status.
Reality: A woman with conditional residency does not have to stay with her abuser in order to get permanent residency or her Green Card. NYAWC can help a woman speak with an immigration lawyer to determine if she is eligible for a battered spouse waiver or other immigration status.
Reality: All couples will disagree at one time or another. But it is important to remember that anger is a feeling while violence is a behavior. Violent against women under any circumstances is a crime punishable by law.
Reality: Women often stay with their abuse so their children can grow up with a father. Concern for her children is often what influences a woman to leave an abusive situation. When the abuser starts to harm the children, it is then that women often feel compelled to risk leaving in order to protect them.
Consider these Startling Statistics:
The Cycle of Domestic Violence
[i] American Psychological Association, Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, (1996), p. 10.
[ii] Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report: Violence Against Women: Estimates from the Redesigned Survey (NCJ-154348), (August 1995), p. 3.
[iii] American Psychological Association, Violence and the Family: Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family, (1996), p. 10.
[iv] Lieberman Research Inc., Tracking Survey conducted for The Advertising Council and the Family Violence Prevention Fund, (July - October 1996).
[v] Bureau of Justice Statistics Special Report: Intimate Partner Violence and Age of Victim, 1993-1999, (2001).
[vi] Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), Costs of Intimate Partner Violence Against Women in the United States, (2003).
[vii] The United States Conference of Mayors, A Status Report on Hunger and Homelessness in America's Cities, (1999), p.39.
[viii] Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), Costs of Intimate Partner Violence Against Women in the United States, (2003).
[ix] World Health Organization, WHO Multi-country Study on Women's Health and Domestic Violence Against Women, (2005).
[x] Murray A Strauss, Richard J. Gelles, and Christine Smith. Physical Violence in American Families; Risk Factors and Adaptations to Violence in 8,145 Families (New Brunswick: Transaction Publishers, 1990), p. 407-409.
[xi] NICHD Workshop on Children Exposed to Violence, July 24-26, 2002, Presentation by David Wolfe, Ph.D., The University of Western Ontario.
[xii] Murray A Strauss, Richard J. Gelles, and Christine Smith. Physical Violence in American Families; Risk Factors and Adaptations to Violence in 8,145 Families (New Brunswick: Transaction Publishers, 1990), p. 407-409.
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